Many people think that they cannot forgive, because they remember everything that they experienced in difficult times. But this is normal when a person does not forget about some of these events in his life. If you forgive the enemy or the offender, this does not mean that you have forever forgotten a quarrel, a fight, robbery or another terrible incident. No, no one will ever make you forget unpleasant events. Experience can remain in your memory forever.
It’s pretty easy to see if you have forgiven a person or not. For example, if you really forgive a person, then, recalling specific events, you will no longer feel a sharp pain in your heart, you will not have hatred and anger at the offender. And besides pity for the enemy, you will not feel anything. This means that you have forgiven, you are ready to lend a hand of friendship to this person and no longer remember aloud these or other events of your life, never remind him of his evil deeds and so on. Forgiveness is not easy, but you should do it. You should always remember that forgiveness affects people badly, and evil people get old and die earlier.
Watching the lives of hundreds of people, it becomes clear: the ability to forgive is not just a virtue, it is a real talent. This is a quality that needs to be developed by working diligently on yourself and changing. There are lucky ones who forgive almost nothing. And others need to make a lot of efforts, spend sleepless nights, realizing everything, and only then they will be ready to make such an important decision and make reconciliation.
Forgiving a person, we release him with good, and good, as you know, has the property of returning. If people all over the world had finally learned how to forgive, then there wouldn’t be so many wars, murders and robberies. People will strive for peace at all costs. The world will be filled with light and smiles, it will be easier for him to breathe if millions of people get rid of resentment and bitterness and begin to enjoy life again.
We need to learn to understand people and treat them tolerantly. In the end, a vulnerable person may be offended in a situation where you do not expect this at all. You should not hurt such people. It will never lead to good. We are all different people with different characters and everyone lives in their own way.
There are two categories of people: vulnerable and funny, who are easy to offend, but they forgive quickly, because they are tired of experiencing negative emotions for a certain period of time. And there are people who very rarely show their emotions, they seem even mean and rude. Such people are hard to hurt, but they themselves can easily offend anyone.
To be able to forgive is a great gift that few possess. Each of us has our own emotions and our own views. It so happens that people disagree, quarrel, hurt each other, and then hold grudges against each other for years. There is another category of people who, despite past troubles, have inner strength and can calmly forgive their offender.