Any specialist working with people knows from his own experience how sometimes it is difficult to restrain himself and not throw out a bunch of negative emotions, not only to the source of their occurrence, but even to someone who was just at hand.
In modern psychology, there are two points of view on the solution to this problem.
The first is that emotions must be restrained, behave culturally, as befits any civilized person. To solve this problem, many psychological techniques and exercises have been developed.
The second is the recognition of the necessity and feasibility of openly expressing your emotions, both positive and negative. The question is how to do this in an acceptable way.
Three ways to manage your emotional state:
1. Mental regulation. This is the ability to evoke a certain emotional state from one’s memory. If we once experienced a certain emotion once, we can experience it again. Emotional memory does not forget anything. Like shortcuts on a computer, we can access it, time after time.
2. Mental regulation. This is a whole set of approaches to managing your mind. Among them are:
Disconnection (distraction). This is a conscious (volitional) disconnection from a situation that causes unwanted emotions.
Switching. Switching your attention to another type of activity, relationship, and directing your emotions in a different direction.
Reducing the importance of upcoming activities. Giving an event that causes unwanted emotions, less significance and value.
Positive interpretation. The ability to find a positive meaning in a situation for oneself or others. The ability to positively interpret any results obtained.
The arrangement. The ability to choose a favorable emotion for a given situation. Realizing the relevance of various emotions, you can make emotional choices depending on your goals and values.
The distribution of emotions. Conscious distribution of one’s emotional energy to various spheres of life. The greater the concentration of emotions in a particular life sphere, the greater its power, and, consequently, the likelihood of emotional breakdowns. And vice versa, the more emotional situations in life, the less power in each, and therefore the ease of management.
3. Body regulation. Our body is the most affordable tool for managing our emotional state. Throughout its history, humanity has accumulated thousands of ways of emotional regulation. In the range from psychotropic drugs to body-oriented psychotherapy and modern experiments with implantation of electrodes in various parts of the brain.
Remember: The process of learning a person lasts a lifetime. The value of the same knowledge for different people may be different, it is determined by their individual characteristics and needs. Therefore, knowledge is always needed at any age and position.